Happy new year, new birthday, new moment, from Successiory. I wish for you, in this new moment, a desire to only ever be yourself. As a strategy consultant and speaker, my business has taught me more, more quickly, than most experiences in my life - except becoming a mom in 2017.
, or mine, and start inviting them to take ownership of their own. It's now about inviting people into a space where they can BE. It is, actually, more about holding space for them as they create the space they need to have in order to freely be.
Me, listening differently, has allowed me to do so. I've had the privilege of being present with clients as they find their own clarity in sessions. In session is often one of the few 'places' where they can hear themselves think. Still, I could not know how to do that until I'd done it for myself.
Now, as a practice, honouring my clients inner needs, I still offer tools and frameworks, but only as needed, for pricing, process, project management (PM) and social media services. However, project management has extended to focus on feasible schedules, rooted in not just time but energy, and authenticity without rebellion or resentment. Process now incorporates your and your clients roles and energy needs - not just tasks on a calendar. Pricing now examines inner drivers and needs as well. After going inward to find our truth in those areas of business, social media is the piece that brings it all together to face the world again. Clients, sure, but community - Clients, collaborators and champions.
If you have a community that already helps you to create and contain that space yourself, you know the value of it. You also know the importance of continuing to do this for yourself, as well. If you're not surrounded by those who lovingly let you be yourself, or you aren't yet able to do this for yourself, I hope this helps.
This is a popular phrase in the new authenticity fad, but if you step back from the media, and everyone taking up space in your head, if you let go of fear of being alone and the ever-popular fear of missing out (FOMO), you will get the real deal. Perhaps some anxiety may come up, but once you face that and go through it, you actually begin to hear yourself.
At first there may be a lot of self doubt and self deprecation, but if you just let those thoughts come and go, eventually, your own mind begins to show you your value, your beauty, your power. You'll give yourself permission to be your own best friend. You'll begin to really know how you feel about the things you may have been doing, saying, thinking, on autopilot, perhaps for years.
I'm an introvert, so in my mind, this really has to take place between you and yourself, if it is to be truly your truth, uninfluenced by external forces. In my experience, once someone else is there - in the room, on a vacation - our minds are aware of them on some level and take them into account in our thoughts. Perhaps it is different for extroverts, and if it is, honour that. If it isn't, then you already know that some time alone is needed to get to know yourself.
Live and Let Live
I haven't heard anyone say yet, "I would give up my free will if it means XYZ will have to give up theirs too." I have heard something akin to "No one who thinks like that should have free will." but I haven't heard anyone say that they're willing to give up the right to govern themselves, if it meant that someone else would have to as well. So why is it that so many are trying to change others to live and behave as they do? The answer: Fear. It leads to a desire to control, people and outcomes, and it drives many of the wars and strange agenda that we find in our world.
When you fill up on self Love (the opposite of fear) before you face anything else in your day, you can only overflow with love. From that place, you'll find the discovery of the diversity of thought, and everything else in our world, exciting, or at least interesting. It's easier to embrace this idea that if you have a right to free will, it would be lovely to see everyone consciously aware of their own free will as well. In fact, you might find that in the long run, egalitarian governance, may bring out the best in everyone (after they vent all they'd initially repressed, of course).
Child-like Self Care
People often confuse self care with selfishness. Speaking as someone who, for much of my life, put aside even my basic need to drink water or go to the bathroom, to take care of work or someone else's 'needs' (feelings), I can assure you that self care is necessary. To this day, I'm not on autopilot to do either of those things when nature calls, but I hope to get there eventually so I can teach my daughter by example.
Watching her, watching children at her playgroup, you see how innate self care is. Children take what they want, say No to what they don't, eat what and when they want, with no sense of guilt. They understand something many of us seem to have forgotten. Self. Many of us as professionals go through life doing and being what's desired by others. Our levers are the emotions of others. If you were to ask "who are you?", most would answer on a variety of ways, what we hope we are to others or to society at large. If creativity is born from within, how can an external-only focus help maintain our creativity?
I invite you, if your value system allows it, to spend a week having fun without guilt. Fun. Read a book you want to, not should. Go to a movie only you would like. Focus on tasks and people that make you happy, rather than those you "have to". Perhaps note how you feel the Friday of that week, versus any other Friday. You may have more energy!
Take Less in. Learn More from within
I know I mention books that I'm reading often, but unless you're truly able to mindfully read 50 books in 50 days, or whatever the new challenge is, without being brainwashed, it is not worth it.
Read what resonates with you, your value system, your current standards and beliefs. Perhaps allocate 10% of that small amount of reading to views that challenge your current perspective, but a reading diet of more 'No's' than 'Yes'' takes away from your daily dose of finite decision-making energy. More on that here.
Happy to Help
As you go into this new moment, I'd like to invite you to remember child like innocence and the freedom to have fun, in all arenas of life.
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There is a lot of noise telling you "change", "fix you", "learn/do/be more". There are even people trying to "cut you down a notch" or "remind you of 'your place'". Not here. 💕
As you read, watch or listen, if you see a service that resonates, let's chat. 🗝 I'm happy to help you establish the business that helps the unique you do just that - have fun and live freely throughout this one life that we have in this space and time.
Happy New Moment!
Crystal-Marie Sealy, MBA, is a keynote speaker and entrepreneurial strategy consultant focused on sustainable business models for established entrepreneurs and professionals transitioning to entrepreneurship. President and founder of Successiory and her signature "Mindful Entrepreneurship. Your E.A.S.Y. Affluence Business Model™ by Successiory", Crystal-Marie works with professionals who want to build sustainable (livable) business models around their lifestyles and create sustainable client community on social media. She also speaks and delivers workshops at business and motivational conferences on authenticity, entrepreneurial strategy for pricing, process, feasible schedules and client social media community. Connect with her and subscribe at www.successiory.ca