I talk a lot about slowing down enough to hear our own voices, views, values, and this year, the theme of "fine just as you are" has been showing up everywhere, since I wrote about it in the January e-newsletter (if newsletters are your medium for inspiration, you're invited to subscribe here for a monthly boost).
What I don't talk about is my own experience with the success of focusing on self discovery and acceptance instead of continuous improvement, which rarely stops to celebrate what is already great. The success of focusing on the feminine (different from feminist) approach to life. That focus I credit with both bringing amazing people into my life and removing (most of) the naysayers. I keep meeting more and more encouragers and less of the opposite. This short piece was inspired by one such amazing light. She all too often has the words to express what I'm thinking. Talk about synchronicity or serendipity! Thanks Ida Jagaric!
Here's to you, readers. What I hope this will do is give you a quick conversation to have in your head should you find yourself surrounded by folks pushing you to go against your intuition, your vision.
I have this talk "The Disruption of Authenticity", and it's all about that - releasing others and our false sense of responsibility for their disappointment, or any of their feelings and expectations. It's about finding resilience without resentment and rebellion, but instead finding it by focusing on your truth.
In summary, the talk delves into ways to build your own self talk to better face those who may be unwilling to accept your new self discoveries, and how those discoveries will likely change you, your relationships and how you interact.
- Don't fight, argue or even explain.
- Just observe.
- As you observe, recede into yourself.
- As you do, you'll more readily realize that you're free.
- You're free to do just what You want to (not 'have to' but 'want to' with joy).
- You're already free of their needs, wants, demands.
- You just have to remember that you are.
- Then, releasing responsibility for their feelings, thoughts, expectations, gives you all of your energy and power back. Power to invest as you consciously, mindfully, desire.
All because you slowed down. You stopped."
It's short, so I hope it'll be easy to put into your own words, when you need it. Fighting takes energy. So too do arguing and explaining. If you're coming out of helplessness, the fight is worth it - an almost necessary step back to empowerment, sometimes. If you are, however, able to stop, to take that step back, and leave the fight there, then you'll have way more energy left to focus on what you're going for. Food for thought.
Thanks for reading!
Crystal-Marie Sealy, MBA, is a keynote speaker and entrepreneurial strategy consultant focused on sustainable business models for established entrepreneurs and professionals transitioning to entrepreneurship. President and founder of Successiory and her signature "Mindful Entrepreneurship. Your E.A.S.Y. Affluence Business Model™ by Successiory", Crystal-Marie works with professionals who want to build sustainable (livable) business models around their lifestyles and create sustainable client community on social media. She also speaks and delivers workshops at business and motivational conferences on authenticity, entrepreneurial strategy for pricing, process, feasible schedules and client social media community. Connect with her and subscribe at www.successiory.ca